I'm a speedrunner of Super Metroid when I'm not rapping about it. If you follow me on twitch I'll invite you to a party in the back of my truck where I have like... at least ten *****s. Most people are pretty disappointed at such a low number, but just like speedrunning you've got to be efficient in your ***** usage.
If I'm being real though, I've been way more of an asshole in the past than I realized. I always meant well, but I wasn't good at knowing myself and I caused some serious hurt to very sweet people who didn't at all deserve it. Like my favorite artist says, "we're all just little kids with scarred hearts from other little kids." My last relationship was really good for me I think because it was as serious as it gets, like literally was about to buy an engagement ring and talking about our future together. Before that I was far too judgmental about meaningless things and her and I wouldn't have lasted either, but that's around the time when I did some serious soul-searching and realized that people and those you connect with are the absolute most precious part of life. By that time we were friends long enough, that things I would have let bother me before were so meaningless and I finally learned true full acceptance and love.
Long distance didn't end up working out so well though since even though. I applied for jobs in the San Francisco area, but my current work is fairly niche so I learned many full-stack web development skills with the goal of moving out there and being able to work from anywhere. This may seem like "whoa dude, too heavy, too fast." But it seems like important context to know that I've been a judgmental asshole in the past, and where I used to think "no, I'm way too mature to EVER do xyz thing" the reality is no, we're all human and we're all capable of both amazing and terrible things, and a true life partner should be able to understand that and if you have a great connection with someone, keep it. I'd much rather date someone I connect with and love to be around that has done tons of "unforgivable" things over someone I love to be around just as much but they seem like they're always just pretty awesome.
The difference between those two is trust and honesty, and someone you love being with and aren't afraid of telling ANYTHING to, that's my ultimate goal in this Earth-based MMO we're all playing. Also for reference, my last relationship ended a year or so ago, and I've since learned many skills to make it easier to move almost anywhere. However, the more places I go to (California, Denver, Florida, Chicago, basically the whole east coast, etc...), the more I appreciate how actually awesome the Ann Arbor area is. Dallas Texas was legit as well, plenty of great food and a GREAT table tennis club, but obviously hotter than balls. I think New York City is the only place I've been to so far that I'd actually seriously rather live, but only if I was like... 100+million type of rich. So yeah, Ann Arbor kicks some f**king ass.